Model Alexis Ren has opened up about her ‘toxic’ relationship with ex Jay Alvarrez, recounting the ‘abuse’ she suffered at his hands — including how he ‘grabbed’ her and ‘started laughing in her face’ while she sobbed before they broke up.
Alexis, 24, and Jay, 26, dated for two years — during which time they both built up massive Instagram followings, painting a picture of a ‘perfect’ relationship between two incredibly good looking people traveling the world.
But their split was a nasty one, and now Alexis has revealed on the Call Her Daddy podcast that she found him to be ‘manipulative’ and cruel.
She also revealed that, unbeknownst to her, Jay had worked it out in contracts that he would own a percentage of her earnings for years to come — and she had to spend two years in litigation fighting for her freedom.
Model Alexis Ren has opened up about her ‘toxic’ relationship with ex Jay Alvarrez
Their split was a nasty one, and Alexis has recounted what she says was abuse she suffered at his hands
Alexis, 24, and Jay, 26, dated for two years — during which time they both built up massive Instagram followings, painting a picture of a ‘perfect’ relationship
Alexis and Jay built up their fame together, and in the beginning, things were great.
‘We were two kids with an unlimited amount of power, in a relationship that was amazing at first,’ she said. ‘It was such an amazing relationship at first, and I genuinely do think he loved me, and I think it was real for a little bit.
‘He seemed very connected to nature. He was always talking about love. And then when we really got to know each other, I realized both of our moms had died from cancer. So there was this connection that I was like, “Oh my god, he gets me, he sees me,”‘ she said.
But as their star power grew and the money poured in, things changed.
‘When the business of our relationship became bigger than the connection itself, that’s when it started to deteriorate,’ she said.
‘You can have similarities with a person, you can even be on the same path as a persona but not necessarily have a connection,’ she went on.
Alexis felt a lot of pressure to be perfect to meet the expectations that fans had — and that Jay had.
She recalled how he ‘grabbed’ her and ‘started laughing in her face’ while she sobbed before they broke up
She also revealed that, unbeknownst to her, Jay had worked it out in contracts that he would own a percentage of her earnings for years to come
‘And so I have to make sure that I’m the best girlfriend, that I can be the perfect girl for him, and do all these things because then no one will like me if I don’t. And I felt like he wouldn’t like me if I don’t. It was set up to fail,’ she said.
‘I remember every morning I would be up so much earlier than him to put on my makeup and make sure I always looked this way,’ she added.
She said that Jay eventually became more focused on the business of their relationship than the romance, which is ‘what ruined it.’
‘It became very manipulative, [he was like], I just need her to be in this relationship to maintain the business, and that was terrifying, because I genuinely did not look at us like a business. I literally was like, you’re gonna be my husband,’ she said.
‘I could cry thinking about how deeply I loved,’ she went on. ‘When money and power becomes the main purpose, then the connections become collateral damage.’
‘I just remember hearing from my friends, like, “He’s staying with you for this one last job and then he’s gonna leave.’ But then another job would come along,’ she recalled.
‘I remember every morning I would be up so much earlier than him to put on my makeup and make sure I always looked this way,’ she said
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‘It became very manipulative, [he was like], I just need her to be in this relationship to maintain the business, and that was terrifying, because I genuinely did not look at us like a business,’ she said
‘That’s the thing with the bad guy in society — in their mind, they’re not the bad guy. It’s a justification of survival,’ she said.
Though Alexis said she has ‘disassociated’ and doesn’t remember most of the specific instances of abuse, she remembers how she felt — and that their videographer was great about stepping in to help.
Near the end, the ex-couple was working in Italy and Alexis remembers crying on the stairs.
‘I was just crying so bad and [Jay] grabbed me and put my hands against the wall and started laughing in my face, and I was just like, “Oh my god, this was all business to you, wasn’t it?”‘ she said.
‘When I say he broke up with me, it was more that he pushed me to the point where I had the meltdown to be like, “I’m done, I can’t” and he was just like, “OK.”
As she screamed and sobbed, she said he had ‘no emotion.’
But even after they broke up, he wasn’t done impacting her life. Alexis said that he had worked it so that he would earn a percentage of what she did for several more years.
‘I actually spent two years after that relationship with litigation lawyers and pretty much lost everything I had because I had,’ she said
‘We were both amazing lessons for each other. We serviced each other to the best of our capabilities,’ she said
‘It was such an amazing relationship at first, and I genuinely do think he loved me, and I think it was real for a little bit,’ she said
‘The reason that that ended was because there was a lot of business legal stuff that came up, like it was really sad to literally have your friends be like, “He’s trying to keep you until this job is done.” To like, “He owns a percentage of you for the next six years,”‘ she said.
‘I was like, what? I actually spent two years after that relationship with litigation lawyers and pretty much lost everything I had because I had to get out of that.’
She also had to say goodbye to other relationships she’d formed, like with her manager — who she said was a ‘scam artist’ who partnered with Jay.
In the end, though, Alexis is able to look on the bright side.
‘We were both amazing lessons for each other. We serviced each other to the best of our capabilities,’ she said.
Alexis went on to date actor Noah Cenineo, and last year was spotted enjoying a PDA-filled hangout with a hunky mystery man at Shellona Beach in St Barts.
Alexis also opened up about getting a breast augmentation after recovering from an eating disorder
‘My only goal was to be as skinny as possible,’ she said. ‘And it was life or death… and what happened was, I lost so much body weight that I lost my boobs’
On Call Her Daddy, Alexis also spoke about her eating disorder, admitting she thought her eating habits were ‘normal’ even when they weren’t.
‘My only goal was to be as skinny as possible,’ she said. ‘And it was life or death… and what happened was, I lost so much body weight that I lost my boobs.
‘I went from having Ds, almost double Ds… and [I lost so much weight that] I even had skin, like lose skin around my boobs. I was so mortified, I was so sad,’ she recalled.
She said she ‘missed my boobs’ and decided to get breast implants.
‘It was actually one of the best decisions ever, I was so happy. I was like, I feel like me again!’ she said.
She also advocated for people getting plastic surgery if it makes them happier, saying: ‘How is that different from you being like, “Wow, her body’s amazing,” and me being like, “Yeah, but she goes to the gym.”
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